You seem to know where you’re at. I’m about your age, I think, with about the same attitudes too. One thing I did is swap out benching for the standing military press. It seems to have been a good move. My shoulders are far less tweaky and weird and it doesn’t seem like I’m missing anything by retiring as a bench presser. Your post mentions a ‘lack of spotters’ and that’s one of my favorite things about no longer benching. The danger/stress is gone. I absolutely blew out my shoulder once while benching and after that it now seems sooo possible that it could happen again. I just don’t bench anymore and it’s not the huge gap that I know it would seem like it is. If you’re tweaky and in any way discouraged with your benching career, you might want to consider it. Hit the standing military press hard. Learn it from Rippetoe youtube vids. It’s more a comprehensive lift than I ever thought it was.